Thursday, February 4, 2010

Geez, y'all! How about an update?

In a nutshell:

  • The Roughneck officially moved in in June. He ended up paying rent on an apartment he didn't live in and barely visited. He said it was worth it to live with me. Although, he complains about lack of closet space. ;) How much could a guy have to hang up??
  • I got engaged in July. It was wonderful! Right before the 4th of July because he just couldn't wait. The ring is beautiful, a ruby heart. You know, because he gave me his heart in July.
  • I started my fall semester of school. It was pretty hard. I had to take an anthropology class. I do not like science. Especially science classes that require a research paper on stuff I can't even understand. I got a B in that class though! Lit made me read The Awakening by Kate Chopin. If I could go back in time and meet one person, I'd meet her and ask her what it was really all about. And then shove it down her throat. I pulled a B in that class too. The other two classes were nothing to write home about.
  • I joined the history society. I figure it'll look good on my transcript. Last semester I was the "extra" officer. Hey, go big or go home, right? This semester I'm the secretary. Yay, promotion!
  • The Roughneck and I set a date for the wedding. Then we moved it up a couple months. The reason why is not something I want to talk about anymore. It was something that necessitated moving it, but now doesn't exist. I am trying to be ok with that and getting better at it.
  • I managed to plan 95% of the wedding during December. His mom is a piece of work, let me tell you! First, she wanted to have the reception at the church. Um, no. Then at a VFW hall in BFE. Or their church in a town 45 minutes away. And then, back the the church idea, if I'd just move it to say, 10 AM, she'd pay to have the Save the Dates reprinted. I didn't have Save the Dates, I had already sent the invites! ARGH! My mom ended up paying for the reception and said I could have it wherever I wanted. I found a space and it was really cool.
  • So, the wedding? January 16th. It was beautiful. Well, that's what I hear anyway. I was so nervous and happy and excited and trying not to cry that I don't remember all of it. Bits and pieces keep coming to me. Like me leaning over to The Roughneck when his brother was doing the reading and saying "Oh, yeah. I forgot he couldn't read." It was a family joke, but he is a slow reader. I'm glad he got the short one. I almost cried coming up the aisle when I saw The Roughneck and he almost did the same. My sister's boyfriend took video of our vows and gave it to us. It was so pretty! It made me cry and I'm tearing up right now. In the video, you can see how nervous I was and how I almost lost it. The Roughneck crossed his eyes though and it made me laugh. As a matter of fact, I giggled through the whole thing practically. It's my nervous tic.
  • Lots of people came. All of his friends, his brother from out of state, his niece from out of town. Not all of my people got to come and I was disappointed. I had wanted at least 1 person from my dad's family to show up, but none of them could make it. L&C couldn't make it either, but it was like she was there anyway. My iPod started playing an entire album of a guy she turned me on to. It was awesome!
  • We had a bit of drama with The Roughneck's ex roommate. See, I invited him and his boyfriend. Then there was whole bunch of drama with them and I wasn't supposed to know they broke up. In fact, I didn't find out that they had broken up and the other had moved out of state until the week of the wedding. The ex-roommate wanted to bring his new bf and I told him no. So he gets all pissed and says he's not coming. Fine. Look, it was a very intimate wedding with only people we knew and were close with. Neither The Roughneck or I knew this guy and I didn't want to meet him on my wedding. The ex-roommate relented and came by himself. HA!
  • The wedding is over and done with. The Roughneck and I had a great two night/three day honeymoon. I didn't want to come back to the real world. Alas, I had to start the semester. :( It turned out ok though because this past week it was just me and him in the house and we took full advantage!!
  • On Tuesday after the wedding, my MIL sat her two sons down and told them how their dad has been running around on her. The boys had had a problem with a stalker. They thought it was The Roughneck's ex. It wasn't. It was their dad's jilted girlfriend. And the story is that she's more loony than Bugs Bunny. The Roughneck is pretty pissed at, and hurt, by his dad. So am I. I am glad they waited until after the wedding to tell The Roughneck because he and I probably wouldn't have gotten married right then. It still pisses me off though that his dad is an asshole and there was tension between my parents-in-law at the wedding and people could tell. FIL has asked for forgiveness and I support The Roughneck in his decision. He doesn't know what that will be yet.
  • Oh. The Roughneck was let go from his job in mid-December. From the church we were getting married at. The church where I have been a member for 15 years and where we met. That was a whole load of BS that is resulting in me leaving and transferring to another church. Bunch of money-grabbing hypocrites.

That's it for now. Sorry it's been so long. I don't seem to have much time for myself these days and it's taking it's toll on me mentally. I finally got a diagnosis of being bi-polar and somedays the meds help and other days not so much. But generally I am getting better. I think we have the dosage just about right.

Little Man is waiting on me for our Big Day of FUN. Children's Museaum and then a giant candy store and hot chocolate. What more could a Mama and Little Man want?

xoxo, Ruby Soho